When arguing with someone with age regression

*Age regression "A Little"- is when a person reverts to a younger state of mind. They may regress a few years back from their current age or, in some cases, return to a child-like or infant-like stat*

do not take an argument at face value,

do not continue to take and think your words are just that,

because she'll never tell you otherwise.

she'll never say that when she was a child

her household wasn't always a quiet safe place,

she will not tell you that her parents used their words 

like arrows with spears of fire at the other ends,

will not tell you that they would use her as a target and 

turn around and say that if they did not love her

they wouldn't have cared.

would have chosen their battle like their last meal

slow and precise

rather than a shopper on Black Friday

looking to be the first one to this deal

only this deal was not worth the price, but

this deal is the first to be able to reach her and

 fuck up her day for no other reason but 

as the parents of the child

they have a certain hold on her

 that could both break her and build her up.

she will not tell you that every two that you raise your voice at her

she will instantaneously retreat to her childlike state

she will become obedient and quite

shut down fast so that you can flip the light off

she will not let you know that just like her parents

you have a hold on her that could wrap around her neck and 

block any air to lung circulation

her blood to body circulation

she will think it is normal

will remember all the nights that she cried so hard

that she could not breathe and

her head felt like it was gonna explode.

do not take an argument at face value

no matter what the argument is she will already

feel as if it is out for her to lose,

do not talk over her, and do not give her the floor to speak

she will not know what to say

even when she does, she will not say it

because she doesn't want to defy you, 

does not want to act out

will try to hold back her tears

will drown herself from the inside

she will not tell you every time6 as a Child

she was forced to answer for her tears

was forced to answer for her silence and her blank stares

were forced to stay in the room and forced to follow through with a lecture that she never said she needed

the lecture that thought no adequate lesson yet

opened the floor for the parent 

to once again being spoken down to and scorned.